Purpose of Therapy
Why therapy when you have a good friend or trusted family member to talk to?
Maybe therapy isn’t your first or only choice. However, when your concerns are related to that person, go beyond their ability to help, or are not something you want to talk to them about, therapy can be a great choice to find the support you desire to work through whatever issues are concerning you.
Therapy aims to help you realize that you are not alone, you’re not the only person who’s ever experienced your concern, you’re not undeserving of help or beyond help, how you feel isn’t wrong, and you do have the power to heal and change.
How I Can Help
“Wait… you want me to open my deepest, darkest self to a STRANGER?!?”
If you’ve never been in therapy, or you’ve had a bad experience, the idea of starting therapy can seem very scary.
The most important part of therapy is to find a therapist who fits you. For this reason, I offer an initial no-cost phone consultation (up to 15 minutes) so that you can ask some basic questions before scheduling an intake session.
Neither the phone consultation nor the intake session are therapy sessions and we don’t work on changing anything during these times. Rather, they are opportunities for you to get a sense of how I communicate, learn about my practice, and decide how we might work together as well as for me to gather enough information to determine if I believe that I’m a good fit for you and your therapy goals.
The foundation of therapy is the relationship built between us. It is necessary in order to provide a supportive, safe place for you to be able to challenge yourself to heal and change. When this foundation is in place, clients often say that it is refreshing, relieving, and/or powerful to have someone they can talk to who is not invested in the outcome of any problem other than their best interest.
My Approach to Helping
We all experience the challenges of life in different ways but are able to heal in similar ways. You bring your own strengths (no matter how long unused or forgotten) to our work together. I work with you according to the therapy goals we set together to identify these strengths and enhance them while minimizing (or eliminating) the patterns and habits that keep you stuck.
My Role as Your Therapist
At the same time, or at different times, I may be:
• a sounding board for your thoughts and feelings;
• a container to hold your pain when you cannot;
• an educator in what is normal about your thoughts and feelings or what is allowed or expected behavior in some area of life;
• a coach for skill-building;
• a model for communication and boundaries;
• a reality-checker of your thoughts and behavior;
• a cheerleader of your accomplishments; and/or
• a student of your experiences.
My Therapy Approach
I practice as an eclectic therapist. This means that I incorporate a variety of psychological theory and therapy models in my work, depending on which will best help you meet your therapy goals.
These range from cognitive-behavioral therapy, with a short term focus on symptom relief, to psychodynamic therapy, for a longer term focus on how your past is impacting your present. There are many that fall between these two models as they relate to length of therapy or that are used for specific concerns.
Frequency of Therapy
After an initial intake session, we will meet once weekly for the first 4-6 sessions. During these sessions, we focus on establishing our relationship and working to alleviate some of the most pressing issues you’re experiencing.
Couple, Conjoint, or Family Therapy
We will continue to meet every 1 to 2 weeks and will sometimes increase the time between sessions to 3 or 4 weeks so that you have opportunities to practice what we’ve worked on in session. As you accomplish your goals in treatment, sessions may be once every 1 to 2 months until we end therapy.
We will continue to meet weekly and will sometimes increase the time between sessions to 2 weeks so that you have opportunities to practice what we’ve worked on in session. As you accomplish your goals in therapy, sessions may be once every 3 to 4 weeks until we end therapy.
Duration of Therapy
Ideally, therapy ends when you’ve met your therapy goals that we set in the beginning. However, you may choose to end therapy at any time and for any reason.
Having attended any length of therapy, I welcome you to return for sessions as you need or desire. Sometimes we need a session as a:
• reminder, or
• “Get me unstuck from this – because I can’t figure out how this is like what I saw you for before.”